I always thought I would be married. But after 24 years of marriage my husband and I got divorced.
I worked as a teacher, but after my son was born I took money out of my pension to help with the extra costs. I thought it would be fine as my husband had a good pension, but when I tried to pay it back in I was told I had missed the deadline. I returned to work when my son turned 5, I then had another gap when we moved abroad for 10 years for my husband’s job. Even though I worked when I was abroad, it was for a private school which meant I wasn’t able to add to a pension.
When we came back to the UK I continued working part-time as a teacher. At the time you couldn’t pay into a pension unless you worked full-time. I thought I would be okay, I could always rely on my husband.
It was a different time, we were always told our husbands would look after us.
The financial impact of divorce
When we divorced I received some of his pension but it had lost its value. I also receive a full State Pension as it is based on my ex-husband’s contributions.
I carried on working full-time and paid into a pension scheme. I had to carry on working full time until I retired even though I would have preferred part-time, so that I could benefit from the pension scheme. Now I only receive a quarter of my salary in my pension.
I have just been unlucky, but I haven’t been able to do anything about it.
I loved my job, teaching was my passion, but I just don’t have much to show for it. Before I got divorced we were comfortable and I haven’t been comfortable since.
I should be living a comfortable retirement on a decent pension but I have lost out. The state has let me down, but I do take responsibility of that too.
Adapting to an unexpected future
Money has impacted me. My friends tell me I am doing okay, but it is hard as they are financially better off than me so it is quite difficult. We will go shopping together and I have to careful with what I spend, but you get used to that. You cut the cloth to what you get.
It’s been tough. We were always told our husbands would look after you. The world is a very different place now. Women are more independent and look after their own affairs.
I have always tried to look at the positive side. I have done a lot more than if I had stayed in my marriage. I have been free to do other things.
It is important for people to know these things happen but you can get past them.
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