The following is an extract from a testimony he wrote while he was caring for her:
“This is a lonely house as the dementia has reached a stage when intelligible conversation hardly exists anymore. It's fortunate that I have a number of friends who are always willing to hold a conversation with me, usually in the evening when my wife is in bed and the house becomes a very lonely place.
We only occupy the downstairs room in the house and, for my part, I intend to continue to care for my wife at home - no matter how difficult the situation becomes. I take into account how important it is that she is able to see me both from the chair or bed. In fact, she usually questions where I am going when I leave the room and begs me not to go.
In the beginning I was not aware of the help available to me. Fortunately, I have been able to gather information and support, often through third parties. But I am concerned that information and advice that has been of such great importance to me is not immediately forthcoming for people in my position.
Getting the right support at a time when I needed most has allowed me to do something of paramount importance to me – to continue caring for my wife at home, myself.”
There are millions more people who, like Ron, have suddenly found themselves in a caring role for a family member or friend. Half say they are not receiving enough support and 61% say they have suffered with depression. Carer's Week Quest is an initiative to reach out to carers who are missing out on crucial help. Pledge your support to ensure all carers get the help they need.