When life doesn't go to plan
"I was a journalist for 70 years. I’m now retired, but I still write a monthly column and cover local events voluntarily. I like to stay as active as I can, too. I practise tai chi, read poetry and go out to the cinema. I try to go for a walk every day because it breaks the monotony. My dad used to say, ‘Wait until you get to my age’ – and it’s true. You are old before you realise how precious life is. Every day is a bonus.
It didn’t always feel like that during the pandemic, though. It was a difficult time for everyone, but particularly for someone like me, living on their own. I’m 85. I haven’t got any close friends anymore, or someone to sit and have a chat with."
Taking the first step
"I was at quite a low ebb and was referred to Independent Age’s Reconnections service, which paired me with a local volunteer named Luke. Luke is 21, so there is an age gap of more than 60 years between us. At first, I thought that could be a problem, but he had a magical way of making me feel young again. He was studying psychology at university and, I soon discovered, was a keen football fan, like me.
Every Wednesday, I’d meet him off the tram and we’d go and have a coffee together. Our sessions lasted about two hours and made a lot of difference to my mental health. Seeing Luke meant I had a reason to get out of the house. I spend nearly all my time in my living room, and I find myself staring out the window, counting the bricks on my neighbour’s wall. If you’re not careful, you can drift from one day to the next, and that can be quite frightening."
Life-changing support
"My friendship with Luke has made me feel as if I’ve still got something to contribute to the world. He’s moved down to London now, but we still talk regularly on the phone and see each other as often as we can. He came to my birthday party this year and gave me a gift of a pen – which is great for a journalist!"
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"I was at quite a low ebb and was referred to Independent Age’s Reconnections service, which paired me with a local volunteer named Luke. Seeing Luke meant I had a reason to get out of the house."
Denis, Independent Age service user