11 When you're a carer

Pages 79-85 in the full Wise Guide book

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You might not think of yourself as a carer. But if you look after your spouse, partner, family member or friend - whether they live with you or not - you have a right to extra help.

There are six million UK carers - a third of them over 65.

So you are not alone. Carers save the economy £87 billion a year by looking after people who would otherwise have to go into hospital or a care home. Looking after someone is lonely and exhausting.  So it is important to look after yourself or, sooner or later, , you may not be able to continue your caring duties. Eat well, try to take daily exercise, and get enough sleep.

Support and help for carers

The person you're looking after has the right to a community care needs assessment from social services (see chapter 10). People like you who give them substantial and regular help have the right to a carer's assessment. You can get this before you start caring, while you are caring, and whether or not the person you look after gets social services' help.

How to arrange a carer's assessment for yourself

Contact social services. Think about what you do for the person, and what human help, equipment or arrangements would make life easier. For example:

  • having a shower or bath hoist so you don't have to lift the person in and out of the bath
  • a home help so you don't have to spend so much time changing beds and cleaning
  • a carer so you can go out on your own
  • a break so you can catch up with friends, interests or sleep
  • an emergency care plan for peace of mind should anything happen to you.

Carers UK has a useful booklet, How do I get help? which explains carers' assessments in detail (0845 241 0963, carersuk.org).

What happens after they assess you

Social services should give you a 'care plan' explaining the services, aids and equipment they can offer. They should also carry out a financial assessment to work out what you can claim free, and what you have to pay for. The council provides some services directly; they sub-contract others to private or charitable organisations. They may also offer you a personal budget or direct payments - see chapter 10 -  which will allow you to buy in services - like respite care - yourself.

Where to meet other carers

Carers UK, and the Carers Trust are organisations set up to support carers. They offer information, advice, and practical support to carers. They may also run carers' groups which give you a chance to meet people in the same situation. The Alzheimer's Society, the Stroke Association and Arthritis Care also support carers of people with a specific condition or illness.They have sister organisations in Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland.

Carers UK campaigns for more rights and better support for carers and offers advice and support on all aspects of caring. They have an online forum on their website (0808 808 7777, carersuk.org).

How to arrange time off from caring

Social services may offer you respite care as part of your care plan. It could be:

  • a day centre for one or more days a week
  • domiciliary care, which means someone comes to your home to look after the person you care for while you have a break
  • a longer period of care in a care or nursing home so that you can have a holiday 

Social services may pay some or all of the cost, depending on your savings and income. If the person you look after needs nursing care, the NHS should pay towards it.

You have a right to help with the costs of caring

But the benefits system is complicated. Phone the Carers UK Advice Line on 0808 808 7777 and ask for a 'benefit check'. Once you are sure it's in your best interests and that of the person you care for to apply for Carer's Allowance, phone the Benefit Enquiry Line on 0800 88 22 00 and ask for a Carer's Allowance form. Make sure the person you look after claims Attendance Allowance or Disability Living Allowance (middle or higher rate of the care component) before you apply.

Make it clear you are caring for the person at least 35 hours a week, and don't forget care at night.  If your state pension is over a certain amount, a letter will come back saying you can't claim Carer's Allowance because you get a state pension. It will then say you have underlying entitlement to Carer's Allowance (known as Carer Premium). Make copies of this document and send one to the Pension Service and one to your council's housing benefit department. Tell them you're applying for the Carer Premium.

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Make sure that the person you are looking after claims Attendance Allowance (details in chapter 1) which can be spent on anything they need. It is one of the only benefits where savings and income don't matter.

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